Contributed by Marianne Clayter
Last week I met with my psychiatrist. He seemed to have a little more time than usual for the last couple of months. He stated he had been talking with my therapist. They were asking each other how they thought I am doing. The doctor stated they both thought I was a little better. He asked me why I thought this was. I suggested the skills sheet I fill out every night keeps me focused on using the skills.
He then went on to say they thought recently that I was going to jump off a bridge! He said this jokingly. However I feel it was not appropriate.
I became angry but said nothing. Lately I’ve not been too assertive, more passive, when I’ve met with doctors. I see my therapist this week so will bring up this incident with him.
My anger took a twist. I thought, “I’ll show you. I’ll go jump off a bridge!” Of course, I am not going to do this.
I am disappointed with my doctor. I have an appointment with him in a month. I may see if I can get an appointment sooner. Even if he was joking it was not appropriate.
Editor’s note: Indeed, it may take our assertions toward clinical and other provider folks to help re-define these relationships so that power and respect are more equally shared.